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I'm sitting here blogging for a while and do some work :(( ... I must be done with it soon cuz it must be submitted on Satuday ;( ... meaning, I won't have fun this weekend . I'm so pissed off cuz my 14 year old sister is not my sister anymore :P , she is always busy with my cousins , I don't spend much time with her you know as sisters ! I hate it cuz being the eldest in the family mean being lonley , I'm not really lonely but when it comes to have fun with someone at my age i must forget about it . My cousin "Y" has travel to USA with her husband I'm desperatly lonely ... and I really miss my younger brother "H" he studies in the US too and I haven't heard from since a long time , he is never online and never send e mail or something " Hello ...we are still alive ! "
I was thinking about the female bloggers , there is a common concern they fear marraige and I may include me in the list " The 'M' Word" is really scary :s and we girls have the right to be worried , girls are scared of marraige ,guys are not ready they marry cuz the have to and their mom say so ! Hey moms ( guys' moms ) do you know what your doing ? do realize that you are sending your son to hell ? Is he ready for such resonsibility ?
Girls , I know how you feel about marraige , actually it is not marraige , it is guys they are scary and it is unpredicable to tell if the marraige is gonna work or not !!!
If you are intersted to read more plz visit these blogs :
Simple stuff , Clouds , Manoora , Flamingoliya ;)
posted by Blossom @ 5/11/2005 01:28:00 PM
22 comments
22 Comments:
Girls are freaked out these days when they hear the M word
may be the shabab these days watch too much Freinds (the T.V show):P
just pick out a nice guy and khala9
you will know him by his close freinds, close freinds have a lot in common, ya3ni if you fear that he is pretending to be nice
i guess i ll make a post about it later on after exams
bass yeah i know it sux to be all alone
and work on yr essay from now,
dont keep it for the last minute
an advice from experience :)
q8ibloger:
Nice to c ya again :)
Yes indeed , everything is getting scary these days , I must say FRIENDS the show has an impact on their mentality , and i also add on the girls' too
No no no... marriage isn't a watermelon "Ba6ekha" .. ok, it is, but not that easy . I mean It is just scary and if you were lucky you'll get the tasty one!
do you believe that a 30 year old guy behaves like a 15 year old teenager :P ...Know what I mean ?!!
Any way I don't know what else to say I'm blocked :P
Thanks for passing by :) and I'm looking forward to read your post :)
Good Luck in your exams
Well I don't watch friends and it does not have any impact on me ;)
The internet have a great effect on marriage, many girls and guys now read those creepy stories online about how bad the marriage went or how the guy turned out to be a beast and so on! So they generalize it and in their minds they have this picture that most marriages will fail. But I think we have to realize that people who are happy in their marriages don't post about it maybe they are afraid of being envied or something!
Nice Post Blossom :)
we ( girls) are not afraid of the merriage itself but afraid of failure!
Choosing the right person or mr.Right is the problem.
no hopeless poet im not affected by the stories i read on the net i do not usually read such stories online i hear them directly from the person who is the hero of the story ! or from his/her parent or relative and lately i heared many stories that made me really panic :S
the only thing we can do is to ask Allah to guide us to the right person and the right way
thanx Blossom :)
tantalize :
* Good evening/night ... well, it happens that single parents are better than the married ones but still if a lucky person got the right person to marry then he/she would be ok and secured by this marraige . Marraige is to tie the knot, but a lot do not realize the quiddity of it .. some do it to have children to have sex to show off and all the blah blah blahs. What makes me sick that the guy who is proposing isn't ready mentally,emotionally and physically !!!
* Regarding your post , they are very inspiring and tantalizing :p
* Correction, a very tantalized male you mean !....you're welcome :)
Hopeless poet:
Ok your point is clear . Most of the marraiges fail cuz not only girls are forced to marry(this is an old story)but also guys are forced by their parrents (this is the new story)...How? parents are nagging when to get marry "bent el 7allal :P" , " Am I gonna see my grand children before i die??!!" ....These are not excuses ...I may add guys are not well educated I mean even by their parents they are not open ...I know there are limits but still they need that father-son talk
These are some of the few reasons that makes us (the girls) fear marraige ....Thanks
Clouds:
Yes the marraige fails if the two parties are not in harmouny , are not understanding , are not open enough to discuss things as husband n wife !
This is the failure !
Thanks clouds for your compliment :* and thank you everybody
PS: I'm not being odd !
:)
thank you Blossom. hope we all get to write one day about (fearless marriage)
;)
Flamingoliya :
You're more than welcome dear...I do hope that too...and inshallah you'll get the two tiny hands and the ring too ;)
Blossom, you were right about mama's puppy..
they fool around with girls but when it comes to marriage "MOM! I wanna get married, find me one"
"mom who is she"
"mom, where are we going to spend our honey moon"
"mom, would you please choose what she is going to wear for me on our first night together"
so any thing the wife asks later on, the answer will be "hold on lemme call mom"....
me as well fear marriage :\
Sarah :
This what's happening unfortunalety :/. I mean I rarley find serious guys in terms of being ready to be responsible ... they don't know what they really want ...they don't plan for their future , they don't even know why they're getting married !!! They do it cuz everyone is doing it !
and of course cuz their " Mama said so "
ra-1:
Yeah... I can imagine
But I thought you're already married ! and you have a little cute girl ;) ...may Allah yekhaleh lech :)... and may Allah yewafgech in your marraige
Thank you
you are tooooo young to think about marriage...isn´t it?;)
is better stay alone and single!!
J-vol being too young to get married is very true, but to stay alone and single forever..?? who says it's better? okay one might want to stay single but no one (atleast no one I know) wants to end up alone in this messed up life..
Being single for a while does not mean being lonely, infact, some marriages make some people too lonely that they wish they'd never get into it..
yes! it is that scary..
NOTHING is guaranteed
j-vol:
Holla ;P
Yeah , you think I'm young but marraige , starting a family , is my dream , being a young mother is also some I really wish ... I think I'm ready enough ... but my concern is who is ready ? yes, no one is perfect .. being single and alone is ok for now but when I get older I think I really wanna have people around me
And yes it is scary !
Sarah:
Good answer :) and thanks for the clarification this what I really wanted to say :) :*
Blossom,
no problem sis, this is a subject that we could discuss for another year without reaching one good conclusion or a solution :)
no am not married!!!
which little girl? :\
ra-1
Ok I think there is a little misunderstanding here :/
The reason that I thought you're married cuz i read True Faith's blog once and she said that you met together and you have a little girl and I don't know...Wallah I'm confused now :P
Correct if I'm wrong !
I have no fear for the word "M" but sometimes I just think I am not ready for it.
There are women at my work place trying to hook me up but so far there was no success :D
namika :
Ok the question is : are you ready ? if the answer is NO I would propaply forget about the whole story !!! If the answer is YES then I have to think about the next step which a new person , a new ME , a new life , a new atmosphere ... you know There are good men but there are few of them .
and May Allah bless you and yewafgech now and when you get married :)
Good Luck hon :))
Well sometimes I feel that I am not ready.. but who know when time comes and Mr. Right is there I might be ready ;)
And true as you said.. good guys are few these days..
Thanks for your wishes ;) and good luck to you too dear..
you're welcome dear :)
Reality check.. unfortunately, and with all sadness, some of the ladies in here, which I do agree with J-vol by the way that they are still young to think of that, but anyway, some of them will have failed marriages.. it feels bad to say it, because I see how decent you are, and wanting the little perfect family, but the bad news, that some of you won’t have that dream come true, and will end up in a bad marriage.. so from my point of view, I see it as a mixture of a little luck, and lots and lots of working on that relationship with your significant other.. as everyone said, it’s very complicated, and not a one line solution.. for the ones in their teens still. I say stop thinking about this.. leave the worries later,, concentrate on your studies, and your fun.. when you are ready, you’ll feel it with in you.. don’t try to mature before your time.. marriage is allot of responsibility, forget about it now, you’ll have enough time to be worried about such a thing..
This is my two cents..
PS, btw, why do I notice that middle eastern girls worry and think about marriage in such a young age much more than western ones? I mean 19 y/o girl here in Kuwait have to have an entry about the marriage subject, where I haven’t seen western 19 y/o girls mentioning it what so ever?? Some thing that just struck me after reading this..
The Don :
Oh yeah the M word , I don't know...well after some thinking ...Yeah cuz guys here marry in a young age ..i have always thought that was a girls' thing but now they do it , and I may add that girls are more than guys( in number ) ...I don't wanna be a second wife , I don't wanna marry someone who is younger than me , Gosh I like matured people ..may be that's why I think older than my age :P ..., I just feel that motherhood is calling me , I wanna some little BLOSSOMS , one or two are ok , I wanna have someone who undersatnds me ...(I am fantasizing :P) I think I'll stop being romatic ,It's time to be realistic :P
Oh yeah Truth Hurts
Thanks for your comment and passing by :)
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